DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: A nephew attended college but didn’t graduate with his class because he fell short of a credit, and some years later completed the course required for receiving his degree online.
Recently, we received a text from his parents stating they are now having a graduation party for him a few days before a family get-together scheduled a couple months ago.
Do we just get a card or is a graduation gift in order? What is proper etiquette in this scenario? --- ANGEL NEEDS HELP
DEAR ANGEL NEEDS HELP: Even though it took years for your nephew to graduate, and he earned his final credits on-line, he still did it. It’s become increasingly common for people to earn degrees outside the traditional timeframe due to a variety of reasons. That doesn’t make their accomplishment any less valuable or important. As a matter of fact, for some, the achievement is all the more impressive because of the circumstances surrounding the completion of their studies.
While I don’t know what the rules of etiquette suggest, I believe a card is certainly appropriate, as would be at least a token gift to acknowledge a job well done, however it was completed. Faced with similar circumstances, I personally would opt to give a gift equivalent to what I’d give someone who earned their degree by going straight through their program without any significant breaks.