DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: My sister was with her latest ex-boyfriend for only a couple months. They never seemed a good fit, and nobody was surprised when they split. She has since found someone who she seems much happier with.
During the short time they were together, I sometimes hung out with my sister and her ex. There seemed to be a little something there between him and me, although it was more joking around than flirty.
A few days ago I got a text from the guy asking if I wanted to go on a hike with him, which is something he enjoys, and my sister doesn’t. He knows I also like being outdoors, and we sometimes talked about taking on a local trail or two at some point.
The thing is, I am not 100 percent sure if this is his making a romantic or a friendship move. I also don’t know how my sister will take his reaching out to me, even though they were not a good fit and wouldn’t have lasted much longer anyway.
Do I run this by my sister before I accept his offer? I also don’t want to be misreading anything, especially if it makes problems with my sister. I like this guy, but I love my sister. --- TO TELL OR NOT TO TELL
DEAR TO TELL OR NOT TO TELL: To me, it seems the better option is to let your sister know her ex has been in touch with you. You can’t really be much more specific than that since you yourself aren’t sure if he’s looking for a hiking companion or a new girlfriend.
Hopefully, as your sister’s moved on, she’ll have no problems with her ex doing the same, if that’s indeed what he’s also working on. If romance isn’t what he’s after with you, then at least you acquire a buddy with whom you can share some outdoor adventures.