DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: After my son was mugged on his way back to his dorm in his freshman year, he found himself going through his own kind of PTSD. Thankfully he was not badly hurt, but he was hurt enough to have developed serious anxiety and has had several bouts of depression over the last two years.
He ended up finishing out the year of the mugging, but transferred to a smaller college, closer to home, to which he commutes, and stays with my sister, who lives only about 10 minutes from the campus, on nights he has had late classes. The rest of the time, he stays with my wife and me.
Shortly after the mugging, my son started seeing a therapist who supposedly specializes in treating people with PTSD.
I know I am not a professionally trained therapist, but I have to say some of the “exercises” this therapist has my son do are a bit out there, if you ask me.
I talk to my wife and a few close friends who have gone through or are still in therapy, and when I tell them what my son’s therapist is having him do, they almost all say something doesn’t sound quite right and think my son ought to see someone else, if for no other reason than to get a different opinion of what can most help him.
I know my son has a lot of confidence in the therapist he has now, but do you think it would be a bad idea for him to get another opinion on his treatment? --- NOT QUITE RIGHT
DEAR NOT QUITE RIGHT: From what I understand about therapy, it’s a very individual experience, not a one-size-fits-all solution. What works for your wife and friends might not be right for your son.
I would think that if you’ve seen positive results, such as a lessening or mastering of your son’s anxiety and depression, chances are whatever his therapist is recommending and encouraging is working for him, and there may not be any real benefit to seeking another opinion on his treatment at this point in time.