DEAR ABBY: I'm writing on behalf of my partner of more than 10 years. He has three daughters ages 23, 20 and 16. While he's close to two of them, his youngest distances herself when she doesn't get what she wants or disagrees with his point of view on something.
Eight months ago, she stopped talking to him because he badmouthed a boy band she likes. He essentially said they weren't worth the money when she asked him to buy her a ticket to their concert. He was going to appease her, but her reaction was so strong, she didn't give him a chance to let her know he was going to buy the ticket anyway.
Her mother doesn't encourage the relationship or support the importance of her having her father in her life or regular visitation, although it's court-ordered. He tried making contact with her several times when this last episode happened, but she ignored his calls and messages. Now that her birthday is coming up, however, she had her older sister send her wish list to him via a text message. Should he buy gifts for a child who has ignored him for the better part of a year? -- GIFTS OR NO GIFTS
DEAR G.O.N.G.: If your partner's daughter wants something from Dad for her birthday, she should ask him directly and not telegraph the message through her sister. Your partner should do what he wants to do about her behavior. You and I know how we would handle this, but we are not him and we are not emotionally involved. Stay out of the line of fire.